How to Overcome the Fear of Speaking a Foreign Language (and Make the Most of Online Speaking Classes)

It’s a new day—and today, you’re ready to take on a new challenge. After weeks or even months of studying your target language, memorizing grammar rules, and soaking up vocabulary, you finally feel ready. You open Zoom, greet your teacher or language partner, and… suddenly your mind goes blank.

The language you’ve worked so hard to understand suddenly feels foreign again. The words won’t come out. Anxiety takes over. You freeze.

You’re not alone. We have been there too—nervous before a lesson, frozen mid-sentence, or even avoiding booking a class because we were afraid we would embarrass ourselves. Whether you’re learning Korean, Chinese, or any other language, that fear of speaking is incredibly common. But here’s the good news: that fear doesn’t have to stop you.


Why We’re Afraid to Speak

Even when you understand a lot and can form sentences, speaking out loud can feel like a huge leap. That’s because your brain processes spoken output differently—and more quickly—than reading or writing. Add to that the pressure to sound fluent, the fear of being judged, or of making mistakes, and it’s no wonder your confidence can take a hit.

But here’s the truth: language anxiety is normal. Everyone feels it. And waiting for it to go away before speaking? That’s a trap. Confidence comes after practice, not before it.


How to Work With Your Fear (Instead of Letting It Win)

1. Stop Trying to Be Perfect

Fluency doesn’t mean flawless grammar. It means being able to communicate. Even native speakers forget words, pause, and rephrase themselves. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s connection.

2. Prepare Before Class

Spend a few minutes before each lesson writing out a few things you want to say. Think about topics like “What I did this week” or “A story from work.” You don’t need to memorize a script—just give yourself something to hold onto. It calms your brain and gives you a confident starting point.

3. Talk Around the Words You Don’t Know

Can’t remember how to say “refrigerator”? Try describing it: “The thing you put cold food in.” Or ask, “How do you say…?” This keeps the conversation going and actually helps you learn faster. Describing, gesturing, using opposites or synonyms—it’s all part of real communication.

4. Try Presentations

If free conversation feels intimidating, ask your teacher if you can prepare and read short presentations on topics you enjoy. Then let them ask follow-up questions. This gives you structure while still practicing spontaneous speaking.

5. Use a Vocabulary Notebook or Google Docs

Ask your teacher to track new vocabulary, mistakes, and useful phrases during class. Review this before and after each session. You’ll start noticing patterns in what you forget or struggle with—and you’ll fix them faster.


Making the Most of Platforms Like Preply or iTalki

When we first started using platforms like Preply, language tutoring apps, we didn’t know how to get the most out of my lessons. We came in with vague goals and hoped our tutors would lead. It wasn’t until we took control of our own learning that we saw real progress.

Here’s what helped:

  • Mix Up the Topics: Don’t just talk about your weekend every week. Look for new topics weekly—podcasts in your target language are great for ideas.
  • Reflect After Each Lesson: Write down a few things you learned, struggled with, or felt proud of. This turns your speaking practice into measurable growth.

Final Thoughts: You Don’t Have to Be Ready

You don’t need to be fluent to start speaking. You just need to speak.

Even five minutes of speaking today is progress. And if next week you speak for seven? That’s growth. Fluency isn’t a switch you flip—it’s a path you walk, one messy, brave, awkward conversation at a time.

So book the class. Open the app. Show up scared. Speak anyway.

Because every time you do, you’re not just learning a language—you’re becoming someone who doesn’t give up when it’s hard. And that’s the real win.

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